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| From: swillia@utnet.utoledo.edu | Posted: Aug-23-2000 10:42 am | Msg: 1FEB |
| Subject: RE: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience | ||
| Queen Mag, I feel your pain. My husband and I suffered a miscarrirage last year. The doctor came in and stated " Well, there's a ten week sack but no baby", and simply walked out of the room. Never looked up from his chart. As if he had delivered some great news, or much wanted news. I was devastated. I may look young but my husband was sitting right there both with our symbol of marriage on our fingers. What makes him think we do not plan pregnancy? Maybe it was me, but I do not think there is room for any assumptions when your are a profesional. My advice, file a complaint and find a new doctor. Sonya -----Original Message----- From: Queen Mag [mailto:mulghaz@jps.net] Sent: Sunday, August 20, 2000 10:13 AM To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com Subject: Re: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience I am just guessing here, but I think they probably give the same pamphlets to everyone. When I was a teenager, I swore up and down to the nurse that I was not sexually active and had no intentions of becoming so for years to come, but before I left the office, she gave me a plastic bag of health care pamphlets, including stuff about birth control and AIDS. I was scandalized at first, but then realized that I'm not everyone, and perhaps other girls my age might need them. I was watching a documentary program on the Discovery Channel earlier in the year and in it they said that 1 out of every 10 children born in the States (even those belonging to married women) has a father who is NOT the man who thinks he's their father (the man their mother is currently with). Personally, I would rather just get every kind of pamphlet I might need than have them ask me a whole bunch of personal, non-medical questions to figure out which pamphlets they should give me. But none of the things you described sound like anything unusual. Doctors and nurses are human beings, and make assumptions based on their experience all the time. That's why the patient's self-knowledge and input is so important. Without that, a person suffering from migraines might find himself getting a leg amputated =) Is there something else going on that makes you think you're being singled out or that they are doing this out of malice? Take care, qm -----Original Message----- From: Leslee Freeman To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com Date: Saturday, August 19, 2000 11:02 PM Subject: [Sistahtalk] (unknown) I am so mad right now, so this may not be very coherent, but please bear with me. I am pregnant with twins. I have been married for 6 years, and wear a wedding ring. I went to the dr. late this week, and was tonight going thru the paperwork/pamphlets that the nurse gave me prior to my appointment. Low and behold, I find several about proving paternity. Excuse me? My husband, with HIS wedding ring, on has accompanied me to most of my appointments, and most of the nurses know him (he is a 6'9", bald, mean-looking ex-marine; people tend not to forget him). My chart also notes that I am married and happy about the pregnancy. I know this thanks to my skill at reading upside-down. Why did the nurse assume that I was an unmarried woman? I know I am more sensitive and reactionary because of hormones, but this is not the first time I have been categorized at the doctors. Early in my pregnancy, my blood pressure was elevated. I was told it was becayse I am most likely prone to high blood pressure. I told the doctor, in my coldest voice, that if she read my chart(which she was holding), she would see that my blood pressure is actually prone to be low, and would she please consider another possibility. I was sent to a nutritionist for gestational diabetes, who advised me my pre-pregnancy weight was fine, since I have a such a large frame (she as planning my diet and weight gain, so she needed to have an accurate picture of my prepregnancy weight). As much as I love to be told I did not weigh too much, I need accuracy, not diplomacy, so I advised her that my frame has always been considered small. She then took the time to actually look at my wrists (even swollen, they are small), but still asked if the women in my family were small, or...It was fun telling her my mom and aunts' weights. These are just two examples. I would like to do something about this problem I am having. This categorizing is not only annoying, it can be dangerous, since they are less likely to look past their assumptions to the actual truth if there is a problem. Any suggestions would be nice. Thanks everyone Leslee | ||