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| From: Leslee Freeman | Posted: Aug-23-2000 11:09 am | Msg: 2010 |
| Subject: RE: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience | ||
| I am so sorry about your miscarriage last year, and am doubly happy to hear that you are expecting a baby this year! I am going to be switching HMOs entirely, since I will probably be quitting my job, so thank you for the advice. Leslee >From: swillia@utnet.utoledo.edu >Reply-To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com >To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com >Subject: RE: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience >Date: Mon, 21 Aug 2000 10:42:44 -0400 > >Queen Mag, > >I feel your pain. My husband and I suffered a miscarrirage last year. >The doctor came in and stated " Well, there's a ten week sack but no >baby", and simply walked out of the room. Never looked up from his >chart. As if he had delivered some great news, or much wanted news. I >was devastated. I may look young but my husband was sitting right there >both with our symbol of marriage on our fingers. What makes him think >we do not plan pregnancy? Maybe it was me, but I do not think there is >room for any assumptions when your are a profesional. > >My advice, file a complaint and find a new doctor. > >Sonya > >-----Original Message----- >From: Queen Mag [mailto:mulghaz@jps.net] >Sent: Sunday, August 20, 2000 10:13 AM >To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com >Subject: Re: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience > > >I am just guessing here, but I think they probably give the same >pamphlets to >everyone. When I was a teenager, I swore up and down to the nurse that I >was not >sexually active and had no intentions of becoming so for years to come, >but >before I left the office, she gave me a plastic bag of health care >pamphlets, >including stuff about birth control and AIDS. I was scandalized at >first, but >then realized that I'm not everyone, and perhaps other girls my age >might need >them. I was watching a documentary program on the Discovery Channel >earlier in >the year and in it they said that 1 out of every 10 children born in the >States >(even those belonging to married women) has a father who is NOT the man >who >thinks he's their father (the man their mother is currently with). > >Personally, I would rather just get every kind of pamphlet I might need >than >have them ask me a whole bunch of personal, non-medical questions to >figure out >which pamphlets they should give me. But none of the things you >described sound >like anything unusual. Doctors and nurses are human beings, and make >assumptions >based on their experience all the time. That's why the patient's >self-knowledge >and input is so important. Without that, a person suffering from >migraines might >find himself getting a leg amputated =) Is there something else going >on that >makes you think you're being singled out or that they are doing this out >of >malice? > >Take care, >qm > > > >-----Original Message----- >From: Leslee Freeman >To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com >Date: Saturday, August 19, 2000 11:02 PM >Subject: [Sistahtalk] (unknown) > > >I am so mad right now, so this may not be very coherent, but please bear >with me. >I am pregnant with twins. I have been married for 6 years, and wear a >wedding ring. I went to the dr. late this week, and was tonight going >thru >the paperwork/pamphlets that the nurse gave me prior to my appointment. >Low >and behold, I find several about proving paternity. Excuse me? My >husband, >with HIS wedding ring, on has accompanied me to most of my appointments, >and >most of the nurses know him (he is a 6'9", bald, mean-looking ex-marine; >people tend not to forget him). My chart also notes that I am married >and >happy about the pregnancy. I know this thanks to my skill at reading >upside-down. Why did the nurse assume that I was an unmarried woman? >I know I am more sensitive and reactionary because of hormones, but this >is >not the first time I have been categorized at the doctors. Early in my >pregnancy, my blood pressure was elevated. I was told it was becayse I >am >most likely prone to high blood pressure. I told the doctor, in my >coldest >voice, that if she read my chart(which she was holding), she would see >that >my blood pressure is actually prone to be low, and would she please >consider >another possibility. I was sent to a nutritionist for gestational >diabetes, >who advised me my pre-pregnancy weight was fine, since I have a such a >large >frame (she as planning my diet and weight gain, so she needed to have an >accurate picture of my prepregnancy weight). As much as I love to be >told I >did not weigh too much, I need accuracy, not diplomacy, so I advised her >that my frame has always been considered small. She then took the time >to >actually look at my wrists (even swollen, they are small), but still >asked >if the women in my family were small, or...It was fun telling her my mom >and >aunts' weights. >These are just two examples. I would like to do something about this >problem >I am having. This categorizing is not only annoying, it can be >dangerous, >since they are less likely to look past their assumptions to the actual >truth if there is a problem. >Any suggestions would be nice. Thanks everyone >Leslee > > > > > >------------------------------------------- >Gloria Sawyers - Editor >Black Living for today's black woman! > >Get Free Email at YourName @blackliving.com >----- http://www.blackliving.com ----- > >The right train of thought can take you to a better station in life. > ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com | ||