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From: Leslee Freeman Posted: Aug-23-2000 11:13 amMsg: 2011
Subject: RE: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience
Jojo - thanks for letting me know that the behavior is unacceptable. Like I
said, I am pretty emotionally unstable right now, and am never sure if I am
being too sensitive. For now, I will continue to speak up, and will most
likely find a new docotr/HMO after I have the babies.
Leslee


>From: "JoJo"
>Reply-To: Sistahtalk@egroups.com
>To:
>Subject: RE: [Sistahtalk] doctor experience
>Date: Mon, 21 Aug 2000 11:22:25 -0400
>
>Hi Leslee,
>
>I have to chime in with others here - if you can, find a new doctor. (I'm
>not sure about the situation in the States - is this something that you can
>do easily?)
>
>Doctors are certainly human and they do make mistakes and assumptions.
>However, given that you are paying for their services, I think that its
>quite reasonable to expect good accurate service. Would you continue to go
>to a mechanic who insisted on treating your Dodge as if it were a Honda?
>
>Of course not - you need a doctor who is aware of YOU as a patient.
>Particularly when all the necessary info is already in your chart. That is
>their responsibility, that's their job!
>
>In my professional life, I've spent a number of years working with doctors
>(in a number of different capacities) and I feel pretty confident in saying
>that this is not acceptable.
>
>Giving you those pamphlets may just be a case of *business as usual* for
>them - just part of their everyday package. However, the issues with your
>blood pressure and weight/diabetes are things that could become dangerous.
>
>It seems clear that you are comfortable and confident in speaking out to
>your doctor, but many women are not - they would simply accept the info as
>given or be afraid to question the *expert*.
>
>My (longish) two cents,
>JoJo
>
>-----Original Message-----
>
>I am so mad right now, so this may not be very coherent, but please bear
>with me.
>I am pregnant with twins. I have been married for 6 years, and wear a
>wedding ring. I went to the dr. late this week, and was tonight going thru
>the paperwork/pamphlets that the nurse gave me prior to my appointment. Low
>and behold, I find several about proving paternity. Excuse me? My husband,
>with HIS wedding ring, on has accompanied me to most of my appointments,
>and
>most of the nurses know him (he is a 6'9", bald, mean-looking ex-marine;
>people tend not to forget him). My chart also notes that I am married and
>happy about the pregnancy. I know this thanks to my skill at reading
>upside-down. Why did the nurse assume that I was an unmarried woman?
>I know I am more sensitive and reactionary because of hormones, but this is
>not the first time I have been categorized at the doctors. Early in my
>pregnancy, my blood pressure was elevated. I was told it was becayse I am
>most likely prone to high blood pressure. I told the doctor, in my coldest
>voice, that if she read my chart(which she was holding), she would see that
>my blood pressure is actually prone to be low, and would she please
>consider
>another possibility. I was sent to a nutritionist for gestational diabetes,
>who advised me my pre-pregnancy weight was fine, since I have a such a
>large
>frame (she as planning my diet and weight gain, so she needed to have an
>accurate picture of my prepregnancy weight). As much as I love to be told I
>did not weigh too much, I need accuracy, not diplomacy, so I advised her
>that my frame has always been considered small. She then took the time to
>actually look at my wrists (even swollen, they are small), but still asked
>if the women in my family were small, or...It was fun telling her my mom
>and
>aunts' weights.
>These are just two examples. I would like to do something about this
>problem
>I am having. This categorizing is not only annoying, it can be dangerous,
>since they are less likely to look past their assumptions to the actual
>truth if there is a problem.
>Any suggestions would be nice. Thanks everyone
>Leslee
>
>

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